11+ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Living with a narcissist can be one of the most difficult experiences we can ever go through. They are in every sense of the world “chaos,” the living walking embodiment of chaos!
Narcissists know how to play the victim and do so with great success — thus making our attempt to warn others about them, all be for nought!
And narcissistic kids can be just as bad!
If you are wondering if you are raising a narcissistic kid then this article is for you!
These are some of the signs that your child may be a narcissist. Be able to look for the signs early on and stop them from becoming a narcissist.
Heaven knows, the world has TOO MANY NARCISSIST RUNNING AROUND!
Let us do our very best to curb those numbers from rising!
Know These 11 Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
“Yes, you will. And I will warn you now that not their blood but your suspicion might build evil in them. They will be what you expect of them…I think when a man finds good or bad in his children he is seeing only what he planted in them after they cleared the womb.”
“You can’t make a race horse of a pig.”
“No,” said Samuel, “but you can make a very fast pig.”
― John Steinbeck
1 – They Believe They Are Better Than Other Kids ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Now being confident is NOT a bad thing. Being confident does have its perks.
Confident people achieve great things in life, they are much happier, and they are not as easily swayed by the masses and the opinion of others.
This last tidbit is a huge trait that I believe we should all cultivate in our children; especially in today’s sensitive world.
The ability to say what’s right and to stand up for what is right is a great power.
However, if your child takes pleasure that they are better than other kids and go out their way to kick other kids down, this is a HUGE red flag that you do not want to ignore!
True strength is not about knocking down others…it’s about knocking others up!
2 – Hard Time Maintaining Friendships ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
It’s a harsh truth to swallow; but we will just lose friends in life. That person we were the closest to a year ago and now means nothing to us, can weigh on our hearts and minds.
However, if you find that your kid is making friends one day, calling them their “best friend” one week and the ditching them and calling the a new kid their best friend the next week, be mindful.
These are the same tactics that narcissist do when they want to love bomb someone and condition them into being what they want them to be.
3 – They Need To Be Center Of Attention ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
This is self-explanatory! The world revolves around them, and if they don’t get what they want, they will go batsh*t insane.
4 – Withdrawal From Others Who Do Not Give Them Enough Attention or Admiration ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
If someone is not showering them with attention, they will have a great disdain and hatred for that person.
5 – Not Taking Responsibility For Their Actions ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
“It’s not my fault.”
“They made me do it.”
“It wasn’t me…it was the devil.”
“I swear they are setting me up!”
Get use to hearing some of these phrases!
6 – Throwing Temper Tantrums When Criticized ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
They can tease and mock everyone, but the moment you say one thing bad about them they lose their minds!
7 – Pathologic Play ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Everything is a game to them. And the game they love to play the most is “getting on your last nerve”.
Being able to rile you up and mess with your emotions gives them a sense of power and authority!
Now, it is very important to let kids know what actions will be given attention and which will not.
That is a great way to curb those negative tendencies.
“When correcting a child, try to avoid complaining about the unwanted behavior. It often attracts more of the same. Instead, encourage the desired behavior with words and in deed. It’s more effective!” – TunedInParent
8 – Gaze Aversion ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Gaze Aversion – When asked questions, adults and children often avert their gaze at certain points within the interaction, especially when questions are difficult. – PubMed
9 – Unreasonable Expectations Of Others ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Everyone is suppose to pamper to their beck and call. They want the world to do for them, think for them and be for them.
This is also something called “Infantile Solipsism”
“Up until a certain age, probably around the teenage years, most people experience infantile solipsism, the childish notion that they are the only player in the world, and that everyone else is just a product of their subconscious. When you realize that everyone else is actually just as complex as you are, that’s when the solipsism breaks, and you have that first existential crisis.” – Reddit
10 – Magnified Feelings Of Envy ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
“Envy is the religion of the mediocre. It comforts them, it soothes their worries, and finally it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues. Such people are convinced that the doors of heaven will be opened only to poor wretches like themselves who go through life without leaving any trace but their threadbare attempts to belittle others and to exclude – and destroy if possible – those who, by the simple fact of their existence, show up their own poorness of spirit, mind, and guts. Blessed be the one at whom the fools bark, because his soul will never belong to them.” ― Carlos Ruiz Zafón
Envy, the ugliest of the feelings. Jealousy is an ugly emotion and MENTAL DISORDER; but envy…envy will make people do the most nefarious of things, simply because the don’t want others to have what they have.
11 – Often Accompanies Antisocial Behavior ~ Signs Of Narcissism In Kids
Definition of Antisocial Behavior:
“Antisocial personality disorder is a particularly challenging type of personality disorder characterized by impulsive, irresponsible and often criminal behavior.” – NHS
Anti-social MUST NOT be confused with being an introvert. I am an introvert.
Anti-social behaviors would be:
- Your kid joining a gang
- Smoking and drinking
- Having a lot of sex and with older people
- Getting in trouble with the law
These are clear signs that your child may very well need help.
Sometimes, love is just not enough to change a kid.
When this happens you may want to consider therapy to try and get to the root of the problem.
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